Monday, September 5, 2016

Our Story: Part two.

I thought it would be a fun idea for Charlie to write the second part so you could see it from his perspective. After some coaxing he agreed. He is the best guy!!
 
  Part two: His perspective.

 I was driving down the road looking for the turn that was on my GPS, and missed the bridge over the creek. I had to back my truck to get to the turn. I then drove up her driveway and saw her and Tracy sitting on her Mammaws front porch. I parked my truck under the tree in the front yard. As I got out of the truck I saw her coming down from the front porch
toward me. I had been somewhat scared up until that point that she may be some nasty dude, or possibly some crazy lady pretending to be Amber, but it was definitely Amber Lynn, the same girl I had been talking to. The only difference I could see was that she was twice as beautiful as she was in her pictures. As soon as I walked up to her we said "Hi" to each other and hugged. We then walked up on to her porch where she introduced me to her Fathers girlfriend Tracy. From there we walked down together to her uncle Tom's house where he, and her Dad were watching NASCAR. She introduced me to them, and Tom said "Hey there!" and her dad said "You like NASCAR?" Shortly after that Amber's sister, and brother-in-law showed up, and we decided to take a walk up the holler a little way to go see a truck that a couple drunks had apparently drove off the road and was laying upside down in the creek. On the way up the hill I grabbed her hand and we walked together holding hands for the first time.

The next few days are kind of a blur. I remember riding ATV's, sitting out and looking at the stars at night, and going to the county fair together. but most of all I remember feeling like the happiest man on earth, and knowing it was only a matter of time until I would ask her to be my wife.



Seriously, guys. Isn't he the sweetest? I'm so lucky!!

Okay, so let me tell you a little bit about the Martin County Fair experience Its a small fair and it only cost 5 bucks to get in which includes rides and everything. You have funnel cakes, lemonade, cheesy games, teenage guys checking out the girls,  teenage girls checking out the guys, screams of laughter can be heard and the background noise is a girl on stage singing "Redneck Woman" by Gretchen Wilson. Sounds like any normal fair experience right? Wrong. It gets better, or worse, depending on how you choose to look at it.

First off-- I was excited about taking him to the fair. If you know anything about small towns, you know that everybody knows everybody. Even when you don't know whats going on every one else does. So going into it I knew that everyone would be wondering who this smokin' hot guy was I walking around with. And boy was I proud. 

 We drove up in my 2003 Pontiac Sun-fire. It was one of those muggy nights where your hair stuck to your face, and you could hear the crickets singing in the background. We walked in, paid for our tickets, and ran into the sheriff. Now, the sheriff happens to be my distant cousin so he has known me and my family for years. He is a super friendly guy, but you know he means business if you cross him the wrong way. I introduced him to Charlie to which he replied, in a half-joking serious tone,  "You better be good to her, or I'll come after ya." Awesome. Death threats from the sheriff.  We are off to great start. After that we decided to ride the Farris Wheel. Ya know, start if off simple We stepped up on the plank to get into the ride and the carney guy took a good look at us and said "Wow, you guys are going to have tall, good looking kids". AWKWARD. Thanks for letting us know that ON.OUR.FIRST.DATE.EVER. I will give him this, though. He was right. Ha!

We got off the Farris Wheel and as we were walking around I saw this ride:
                                       
                                I found a picture on google so you can have a good visual of what I'm talking about.      
                               Image result for the umbrellas fair ride
   



Here's the thing: When it's your first date and you're at the fair with your girl, you are not going to mention that anything that goes into a circular motion is gonna make you feel like you're going to barf. I didn't know that rides like that made him sick (I found out just a few seconds into it) and I wanted to ride the Umbrellas. If your girl wants to ride a ride, even if it makes you sick, you're gonna suck it up and ride the ride. We got on it and Charlie sat on the inside and I sat on the outside. Baaaaaad idea. Not only was this ride going into a circular motion, but every time the ride dipped down, the engine that sits in the center would blow diesel smoke in your face. We started going around a second time and Charlie said "I feel sick". At that point I didn't know what to do. I know that I would die of embarrassment if I puked on my date, so i did the only thing I could do. I started yelling at the carney guy to stop the ride. So every time we dipped down to where he was standing I would yell "Can you stop the rrrrrriiiiiiiidddeee!!!" while waving my hands like a mad woman. I don't know if he didn't hear me or thought I was waving my hands in excitement but we would go back up again. He finally heard me and he stopped us. That was exciting.

After feeling like he would going to barf, Charlie thought it would be best to get something to drink and sit down under the tents for a little bit. He got me some lemonade and grabbed himself a bottle of water. As we sat down I looked up and saw that they were getting ready to start a wrestling match. I thought "Oh no, here we go....... "And I kid you not--they started the music and I looked up and saw a guy with a mullet wearing an American Flag speedo. He started yelling "MARTIN COUNTY SUCKS!!" to the competitor. This drunk lady (in the crowd) didn't like that anyone would talk about her beloved town, and started swearing back at the guy words that I shouldn't be typing here. It was the most awful, hilarious, redneck thing you could possibly ever see. I looked over and Charlie was laughing so hard. Good. He thinks its funny and doesn't want to run for the hills. #winning.

After that hilarious/awful fiasco, we took a walk behind where all the rides were and sat on a hill overlooking the four-lane. We sat there, held hands and talked for awhile. I don't remember what we talked about, but I just remember being the happiest girl in the world being with the man of my dreams! 

 







 
 












Thursday, September 1, 2016

Prideful comparison.

Ya know.....

You're scrolling through Instagram because you are refined to a couch, nursing a baby for the 100th time today, you have spit-up on your shoulder, the house is a wreck, and you see that perfect mom with her perfectly clean house, her 9 month old is walking, reading, and baking a cake--okkkaaaay, her 9 month old isn't reading OR baking a cake, but you get the picture. It leaves us feeling inadequate and depressed. I'm so guilty of doing this. So guilty. There's so many ways that prideful comparing gets in the way.  As a mom it is so hard not too and it starts so early; a friends baby starts sitting up before yours and your kid is older, another baby starts walking before yours, talking, reading, etc. And boy is it hard to not compare and wonder if you're doing it all wrong. I caught myself doing something a few weeks ago and God opened my eyes to it. Normally when I start comparing I say to myself "Well, she's doing that, but I can do this and this and this, and she doesn't do all that" Now tell me, how is that encouraging? How is that helpful? I was purposefully looking at another person and finding all the things they do wrong and I do right.  

"Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves."  Philippians 2:3

Ouch. God sure slapped me on the side of the head with that one. 

So how exactly is one supposed to stop comparing?  I don't believe we will stop doing this completely (big shout out to sin nature) because I've messed up so.many.times, but I think the more we stop it with scripture the easier it will be. 

1) Pray! 

When you start feeling this way, ask God to help you. Because once you start comparing discouragement sets in, and when discouragement sets in, you better believe feeling depressed comes right after that. If you pray as soon as you start comparing, you wont go through the cycle of awfulness. 


2) God made me just who I am for His calling. Just like He made every one else for theirs. 

By the grace of God I am what I am. (1 Corin 5:10)

God made me to be me and gave me gifts to use for his glory.

 "We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your faith; if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully." Romans 12:6


3) Satan wants me to feel this way. He really does. 

He must feel happy when he see's a mom of four feeling discouraged, inadequate and depressed because shes comparing. The bible says he is the father of lies.  

"He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies." John 8:44

Satan wants me to feel discouraged when thinking "she can do it all and I can't". Satan wants me to compare someone else to myself.

I think it's a normal to feel like you can't do it all, because we can't. We are not good enough. 

"Why do you call me good?" Jesus answered. "No one is good--except God alone."Mark 10:18

 "As the Scriptures say,"No one is righteous—  not even one.
No one is truly wise;  no one is seeking God.
All have turned away;  all have become useless.No one does good,  not a single one."
 
But, you know what? Christ in me makes me good enough. Not only good enough, but justified and righteous before God.

"For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God” (2 Corin 5:21)."



So when you start feeling this way and comparing; remember these truths:

Pray. 

God made me who I am for His calling.

Satan wants me to feel this way.

I am good enough because Christ dwells in me. 

I hope this encourages you as much as it has me. I'm sure I'll be coming back to this many, many times.  




Monday, July 18, 2016

Apple pie

I know, I know. I've been MIA for a few weeks. I had Luke on June 12th and I'm hoping to write up my birth story soon! 

Every morning I try and write out a to-do list for the day and this morning, along with laundry (you should see my dining room table right now, its covered in laundry), cleaning the bathroom and Tuckers room, I wrote "Do something fun with the kids". I'm so guilty of writing out a to-do list and just letting the kids do their thing while I do my mine. I don't want them to depend on me for their entertain source because I think them learning to keep themselves busy is a good thing, but trying to get my to-do list done and then stressing out about it while telling them "One more minute" over and over again when they ask me to read them a book isn't the best thing either. This lead me to the idea to just do one fun them with them every day, if I can. I know some days are just plain crazy I mostly just want to make it a priority to do something fun. Examples: Going on a bike ride, coloring with them, reading them a book, etc. So I thought it would be fun to pick some apples in our back yard and bake an apple pie. So off we go!


                                                          


                                                                   Almost there!


Tucker found one.
                                                   While the kids were picking apples, Tucker found something to climb on.


                         
                                                                 Looking inside the bucket

                                                       She thought it would be funny to sit on the bucket.

                                                                Showing off the apples!


                                                           Shes so sweet!
                                                      I picked the kids a blackberry.
                                                                Tucker was very happy about it!
                                                    I set a self-timer and got a picture of all of us!

                                                       Cutting up butter for the apple pie crust.


                                                               Emily took this picture of me peeling apples and Jake eating them.
                                              

And after making the biggest kitchen mess known to man, tucker eating a handful of sugar while I wasn't paying attention, and Emily and Jake eating cinnamon sugar and spreading it all over the counter, we have an apple pie! Oh, and Jake was all offended that we couldn't eat it "now". Being told that you couldn't eat an apple pie before lunch is not cool. Not cool.